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Blog-tember, Day 30: Parting Words


You made it! We made it! The 3rd Annual Blog-tember Challenge is COMPLETE! Thirty days of blogging, thirty days of connecting, and thirty days of crazy in my world come to an end today, and I have SO enjoyed being on this journey with you! From fall favorites to family recipes, we've shared everything under the sun this September, and I'm already brainstorming for next year! Will I see you there?!

Friday, Sept. 30: Picture this, you've been stopped on the street by the photographer of Humans of New York, and he asks, "What advice would you give to a large group of people?" Share a picture of yourself along with the advice.

I thought about this long and hard all month long, and in the end I'm going with a piece of advice that I need to take in my own life. Are you ready for it? Here we go:

Having the capability to do something does not mean you have the capacity to do it.

In other words, just because you could that doesn't mean you should.

If you are like me, you can have a hard time saying no to things. I volunteer, allow myself to be volunteered, and I pile my plate high with responsibilities. I pack my schedule with events and commitments, self-care falling to the wayside. For far too long my mindset has been that if I am physically able to take on a project, person, or position then I should. I've also long had the perspective that if I do not do it myself then it won't get done or be done well.

Y'all. These ideas are FALSE. Untrue. And often crippling.

In this season (and the last) I have been learning the hard way that saying "no" can be good. While it may be difficult, and it may momentarily disappoint someone, it can be the healthiest choice for my own heart and the most beneficial decision for whatever the project may be. I want to be through with stretching myself thin and pretending to be Superwoman. I want to take care of myself (physically, mentally, and spiritually) AND leave room for someone else to step into their calling or this/that opportunity.

It is also easy for me to get caught up in the "she does so I should!" fantasy/fiasco, especially when it comes to online endeavors. Just because she has an online shop of printables, doesn't mean that I should even if I could. Just because she signed up for this team or that review doesn't mean that I have to. Just because half of Instagram is selling this thing, doesn't mean that I have to sell to enjoy it or be cool.

The comparison game is strong, and the trap is easy to fall into. I, however, want to remain SECURE in my identity (which is in Jesus and NOT my follower count) and trust that HIS will for my season and my schedule is better than any that I could make up for myself. My own medicine is hard to take, but some tough decisions are being made in the upcoming weeks. I am going to have to say no more, and I may even have to bow out of previous commitments. Mind you, I am not encouraging irresponsibility but intentionality. And sometimes your best yes is a thoughtful no.

What advice would you give to a large group of people?
AND what was your favorite part about the challenge?!
Thanks again for joining us! It's been GRAND!


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